They say love is a violent act. If the person you love has deeply hurt you but you still see them as the greatest person, you love them truly. But I think that's not true.
Love isn't putting someone on a pedestal just because you chose them over everyone else. No, its the opposite actually. You see people around you, you see their appealing characters but you also notice through their facades, or maybe some of them inspire you because you don't know the dark side to that profile. But when you choose a person to share your life with, You see them as they are, everything they are, everything they want to be, everything they have been in the past, everything they can be in the future that you can predict from their morals and behaviours.
You see them for who they are. You see the human with all their flaws, all their mistakes, all their good and bad memories and decisions and phases. You see and know all of that and you love them. You love them because of how human they are, not despite it.
You dont love them because you ignore what's wrong with them, you love them because you understand why it is the way it is. You want to help them get over their past and live better in their present, you know how to help them and you know the only way to heal them is to love them through their shit and their anger and their stubbornness to accept their mistakes or their wrongs. Love isn't a violent act. Love never was. It is the most gentle act, only after you understand it though. Until you understand it, its gonna break you into pieces and your tears will flood your room every next week for some reason or another because you haven't healed completely too and so it triggers you sometimes when they don't treat you right out of their inability to love you in your language.
